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新年幾天下來,大家有沒有受到長輩特別關愛的提問呢?什麼是關愛的提問?恭喜你,你可能沒有接受過關愛的提問。但如果你清楚明瞭的話,就依照年紀及生活階段來對號入座,自行想像關愛提問的內容吧。

After a few days of Chinese New Year, did you receive some endearing attention from relatives? Wait, what is loving attention during Chinese New Year? Congratulations, you have never been through it. But if you are like me, who is very experienced with endearing attention from relatives, whatever questions that are relevant to your age and life stage, those are the ones.

說真的,我今年收到的關注還真不少,有當面直接下問的,也有拉到旁邊去說教一番的。但值得驕傲的是,今天我還蠻成功的抵擋了不少關愛。

To be honest, I received quite a bit of attention this year. Some are more in my face, some are more pulling me to the side with advice about life. But I am proud to say I successfully handled some hard to handle situations today by using these stock answers.

回答一號:希望可以喔!(由長輩自行決定希望的內容)

回答二號:好啊,謝謝您的祝福。(由長輩自行決定祝福的內容)

回答三號:好的,我懂哦,您的女兒還好嗎?(轉移目標法)

回答四號:有些時候片面之詞還是比較不完整,但我懂您的意思,謝謝您的提醒啊!(溫柔的拒絕接受更多關愛)

Answer No. 1: Hopefully! (let the relatives decide what to hope for)

Answer No. 2: Thank you for your blessing! (let the relatives decide what to bless me with)

Answer No. 3: Yes I totally understand. How's your daughter doing by the way? (subject change)

Answer No. 4: Sometimes gossip is not fully reliable, but I understand what you mean completely, thank you for the reminder! (rejecting further attention nicely)

感謝思先生在我每次成功的抵擋關愛後總是輕輕在我肩上按摩幾下,並低聲跟我說,我們是一隊的,決定在於我們,不要擔心。你們過年有沒有很焦慮或是成功/失敗的抵擋了關愛的提問呢?

Thank you Mr. Si for rubbing my shoulders every time I handled a situation, and telling me we're partners, we make joint decisions and not to worry. Did you get anxiety over the past few days or perhaps handled or not handled the endearing attentions?

不管如何,希望大家都能了解關愛只是關愛,一切的生活決定還是來自我們自身的願望及能力。共勉之~

No matter what, I hope everyone understands that endearing attention is just attention, not deciding factors for anything. How we lead our lives totally depend on our own personal desires, dreams and what we can achieve at the current stage.